My house My heaven. That is the hope of a marriage. Indeed, not easy to realize these hopes, might be a hell house. It takes a harmonious cooperation between the husband and wife when the ship sailed the wedding. In addition, it takes an understanding of how to maintain the marriage in order to keep harmony and resistant to storm the test. The following explanation intensive practical and Sheikh Omar Bakri Muhammad "Beautiful Advice To Husband and Wife," published by Horizon Publishing.
Rasulullah SAW said:
The best among you is the best (treatment) of his wives and I was the best among you to my wives.
Rasullullah SAW also said:
No one glorifies women with a true except the man generous (generous) and no one who insulted them (women) unless the man roughly.
The duties of a husband to his wife:
1. You should always memperlihatkanlah pleasant face when he entered the house, say the Islamic greeting "assalaamu'alaikum" with a sweet smile, reach out and hug your wife with tenderness.
2. When he spoke, untaikan sentences sweet and charming wife. Make your wife feel truly cared for and make the most special woman for you. String of sentences which should be clearly communicated to him (repeat if necessary) and call your wife with a title that she likes such as sweet, my love, my love and so forth.
3. Even if you have a lot of work load, take time to Be hospitable and mingle with your wife. This is also done by the Prophet Muhammad in which he also Be suave and spend time with their wives, although at that time he also filled with work and the burden of responsibility is very great.
4. Play a game or a happy interlude with your wife. This is stated in a hadith that Rasullah SAW said:
All the things in it did not mention the name of Allah, is a vanity, except in four things: a man who was playing with his wife, trained horses, aiming between the two targets, as well as teaching swimming.
5. Assist the daily work households. Always try and help you help your wife with the daily tasks of your household, such as buying food, preparing food, cleaning and organizing the house, and so forth. Things like this will bring its own happiness in yourself and your wife will certainly strengthen your love and your relationship with the wife.
6. Try deliberation always decorate your household. Consult with your wife, in each case. The opinions in Umm Salamah conveyed to the Prophet Muhammad at the time of Hudaybiyyah agreement is a very popular event. This is exemplified by way of the Prophet Muhammad to deliberation with his wife and his companions.
7. When your wife is visiting his brother, his friends, as well as religious people, then Accompany your wife.
8. The procedure to make the trip and left his wife at home. If you can not bring your wife along the way, then just say good-bye affectionately, your wife bekalilah supply daily needs and enough money, ask your wife for your mendo'akan, frequently to call your wife. Do not forget to ask for help to the people you trust to keep your family while you travel. Please shorten your trip if you felt was not important anymore and go home with souvenirs. Avoid to go home at night or at times unexpected.
9. Financial support. Generous attitude grow on you (not cheap) in the affairs of your household expenses, must be in accordance with your financial abilities. Good financial support (not wasteful of course) will be very useful to maintain stability in your marriage.
10. Make yourself to always smell nice and your appearance perindah. Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty. So you always bersihlah, neat, and wear perfume. Ibn Abbas r.a. said:
I love the beauty of myself to my wife, just as I love the beauty of my wife for me.
11. About sexual relationships. It is the duty of the husband to make ends meet and his wife's sexual desire. It may be that once your wife are in a very vibrant period with respect to physical and psychological health.
12. Attentive. A Muslim husband should be very caring and full of feeling towards his wife. Your wife must have experienced and through a variety of changes both physically and psychologically. At times like that, your wife is in need of a loving treatment and caring, so your wife can remove distress and sadness that was experienced, and easy to calm feelings untouched.
13. Maintain the confidentiality of your marriage. In a hadith narrated by Abu Sa'eed al-Khudry that the Prophet SAW said:
It's among the worst people before Allah on the day of resurrection is the man who came to his wife to engage in intercourse, and he reveals the secret (about sex) to the others.
14. Working together in worship to God, prayer and always berjama'ah increase your activity in worship to God, like charity, dhikr (remembrance of Allah SWT), and pray at night (qiyamul Lail). Rasulullah SAW said:
May the Almighty God's grace bestowed on the man who woke up at night and wake his wife to pray with him, and if he refuses then splashed water on his face.
15. Always show respect to family and friends your wife.
16. Try to educate your wife about Islam and give your wife's advice.
17. Jealousy is natural.
18. Be patient and apply gentle to your wife. Take control of your anger and make her to remove her doubts about you, and when nasehatilah he made a mistake.
19. Be pema'af and admonish your wife a good way and tell the time really right.
20. Be a true Muslim husband, and apply all that has been read and understood about Islam, with a wise and prudent. * Arrahmah dot com
